ARE YOU WORTH THE PAIN?

Well relationships are meant to build us rather than breaking us. It’s easy to know when you are in a healthy and mature relationship when there is mutual respect, trust and honesty. A relationship that is married with fights and quarrels is known to be toxic. Some other partners assume they have full control over the other hence start acting unfair, loosing anger and unleashing it on the other partner. When it’s at this point keep off as it is not doing you any good.
It’s not worth fighting for someone who really does not deserve you or rather does not want you. We make many mistakes as we really expect so much from someone who does not match our expectations. Having so many expectations will make one desperate as you yearn to achieve them. Not all are meant to be in a relationship, there is still life and happiness without it.
When one starts to be dishonest , does not respect the other , intimidates the other partner, physically harasses the partner and takes control of the relationship making all decisions then that becomes toxic. One can easily mistreat you in a relationship when you are emotionally weak as you are vulnerable to him or her.
How I wish people realize their worth in a relationship, have the power to know people whose love is a game that in the end you can’t get them off your brain. Who deserves to be mistreated, battered and abused? It’s good to love someone but then don’t let it to be too much. Loving someone too much makes you to be possessed of the other partner that makes you vulnerable.
Getting attached to someone is risky as so many people change depending on who they meet. Getting attached to someone is so good until you break up and you don’t know how to get over it. Some get affected to the point of end up committing suicide which is not worth it. After having a bad experience  you lose important virtues such as trust. Anyway who can you trust in this world full of lust.
We all should learn from the mistakes we make daily cause this are some of the things that make us who we are. We learn on how not waste our trust on people who are not worth it.  Before giving out your trust to someone weigh it and ask if they really want to hurt you, do they really want to see you cry? If it’s really love they want from you then let them take it away.
Investing in a fellow comrade such supporting one financially makes one have high expectations and start influencing the other partners life such as who she talks to and who her company is. Trying to restrict someone worsens situations as one does not feel the freedom and yearns to go against. Breaking up with someone you did all this to makes one feel so betrayed and start having weird thoughts such s killing and committing suicide.
Personally I feel loving at a young age only ruins one’s life as you grow older.  Actually I prefer having fun over love as in the end no one gets to be hurt and it’s all safe.
Relationships aren’t meant for everyone in campus, only the strong get through. If you are weak its better you don’t get involved as you stand out to be disappointed.
What many don’t believe is you can have a life without being in a relationship in campus. Choose happiness over being a prisoner in unfruitful relationships that are toxic.